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Carsie Blanton on ‘Emotional Affairs’

Hello —

I had hoped to re-publish here a blog post by musician, writer and artist Carsie Blanton titled “Emotional Affairs Are Not a Real Problem.” But I have not yet heard back from her to see if Planet Waves has permission. So instead, I’m going to direct you to the piece here on Blanton’s own blog.

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Carsie Blanton

Here’s how the piece begins:

I’ve been coming across a lot of articles about emotional affairs, and they give me the heeby-jeebies. I find the “emotional affair” to be a vague and unhelpful concept, whose primary function seems to be introducing an extra helping of paranoia and guilt into our relationships.

Articles like this one (and this one) remind me of articles on fad diets: they start by convincing you that there’s a problem (“Are you having an emotional affair?”), and then they offer you a solution that is vague, unscientific, and likely to create more problems (“You need to work on your marriage!”).

So, no. I don’t think emotional affairs are a real problem. If they seem like a problem, I’d wager that you probably have bigger problems – and probably not the problems you’d expect.

What follows is Blanton’s description of five real relationship problems, and her philosophy of continual communication, negotiation and, if necessary, recognition of when it is no longer healthy and enjoyable to be partnered. That these thoughts are coming so articulately from someone on the cusp of turning 30 strikes me as a genuine bright spot in a landscape populated with Millennial generation hookup culture and fears of being vulnerable and intimate. I’m curious to hear your thoughts here on Blanton’s full article.

We Are The Sum Of Our Parts

By Judith Gayle | Political Waves

There are weeks when everything seems stuck in-process — bubbling in the sociopolitical cauldron, unresolved — and others that offer breakthroughs, allowing a peek at future progress and potential. This week gave us some of both, starting with a major shift of political fortune to our north. Congratulations to our Canadian neighbors for putting the conservative leadership of Stephen Harper in their rear view mirror.

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Although the more progressive New Democratic Party started strong in the 78 (!!!) day campaign, the more moderate Liberal party won the prize, with the election of Justin Trudeau promising an end to some of the stultifying austerity measures of former neoconservative leadership. While the election can be seen as repudiation of corporate values over populist ones, Trudeau’s support of TPP and the XL Pipeline continues a worrisome lack of environmental reality that will, hopefully, fall short of Canadian support.

Still, here in the states we celebrate every shift back towards governance for and by the people, and although largely untried, this new Trudeau (Pierre’s son) is a welcome ally to progressive causes. In his first week, the new Prime Minister canceled pending air strikes against ISIS and welcomed an additional 25,000 Syrian refugees into his nation. Since the U.S. is leading the mission against ISIS, this may not thrill the Pentagon, but Trudeau is expected to be a warmer alternative to the chilly relationship between Obama and Harper.

In terms of closure, the week began with Democratic moderate Jim Webb pulling out of the Dem presidential race, disgruntled by lack of attention and mulling a run as an Independent (where he would REALLY be ignored!). It ended with the only Republican Senator to vote against the Iraq war, Lincoln Chaffee, pulling the plug as well. That leaves Clinton, Sanders, O’Malley and perhaps Lawrence Lessig to duke it out, and only the first two count. Do note, by the way, that the pendulum swing quickly took out those too moderate to meet the populist demand.

O’Malley is interesting and well-spoken, but these election waters aren’t conducive to the survival of smaller fish. In that regard, Lessig told Bill Maher last week that his pledge to win, defeat Citizens United and corporate ownership of the political process, and then hand the presidency over to his as yet unnamed Vice President was “stupid.”

Running this through our populism-inspired ‘authentic-o-meter,’ his comment seems remarkably candid, but hardly politically astute, nor was making such an admission wise on a politically incorrect comedy forum where people are comfortable connecting dots from such statements to possible leadership capability. Largely unknown, he, Webb and Chaffee never got a single point in the polls, and for the moment, Lessig is the last man standing among the largely unappreciated.

The other politico to pull out of the Dem lineup — even though he never actually entered — was Joe Biden, who seemed to be endlessly scuffing his toe in the dirt, weighing his options and giving pollsters apoplexy. What can we say about Joe, one of the last remaining politicians whom the nation views with affection? I read a lede the other day saying he was “the last of an era,” and perhaps of all the commentary we could make, that is the most accurate. Having come to terms with our systemic dyfunctionality, Biden represents what used to be — not what is.

Joe’s intent to reach across the aisle to make law in a bipartisan manner is laudable but no longer possible, given the divide among the political factions. If these last years have proven anything, it’s that partisan stonewall will not go quietly or respectfully into the night. As Joe was bound to run on that long history of bipartisan achievement, he would have had as much success in that venture as does his boss. Or, for instance, Dennis Kucinich, who joined with FOX News to occasionally represent the view from the left, winning him a long exercise in yelling into the black void of misinformation and hearing nothing but the chirp of crickets in return, as well as a top spot on the Google cue for “where are they now?”.

We really want to behave in a civilized manner, don’t we? And there is every reason to be suspect of an inability to come to the table when mere political ideology is the point of separation between parties, but that is not what’s happening now. What we’re experiencing now is a growing awareness that there is no freedom to choose what is driven by oligarchy, with our divisions fostered by it and our citizens bewildered by the fear it promotes and the patrons it produces. It helps to remember that those who serve this cause are often themselves blindsided by misinformation campaigns and religious dogma.

Speaking of same, Ben Carson is running ahead of Trump in some polls. He’s been on local television, signing copies of his book in a Christian bookstore to my north, which pretty much says it all. He’s got Trump arrogance AND knows his Old Testament — a sure winner with the base. Ben wants to ‘intensify’ the war on drugs, while Bernie, meanwhile, has called for an end to the policies that have put so many of our citizens into an overcrowded and nonproductive prison system.

Paul Ryan has signed on to run for House Speaker, though he made it clear he wouldn’t take the job if the far-right continued its purity antics — they will, he will, and we will have more of the same. I suspect Ryan is counting on a bump in gravitas for a future run at the Oval Office, but it will also reveal some of his weaknesses, one of which is that he’s much less intellectual than his reputation and a good deal more regressive. He can run, but he can’t hide.

Mid-week, there were a number of revelations pushed to the top of the heap. One was the leak on Obama’s drone wars, of which little has (yet) been made, and a teen hacking into CIA Director Brennan’s personal e-mail to lift sensitive information, some of which was shared on a Twitter account. The hacker(s) told Brennan they would relinquish the account for “2 trillion dollars hahhaa, just joking.” When the CIA Chief asked for the next offer, he was told “We just want Palestine to be free and for you to stop killing innocent people.” (Crickets.)

Acting on an exposé by the Los Angeles Times, Bernie Sanders went after allegations that Exxon had done extensive research into the dangers of fossil fuels as early as the 1970s, and buried the result. He asked Attorney General Loretta Lynch to have the Department of Justice investigate the allegations. While that may or may not occur, this news has galvanized observers to consider that in Exxon’s unceasing push for profit, it cannot escape responsibility for not just irreversable damage to the planet but for the many deaths climate change can already claim, not to mention those to come. As Bill McKibbon put it, no corporation has ever done anything this big or this bad, and they’re daring us to stop them.

Unless you’ve been kidnapped and held in total isolation, you know that Clinton had a productive week, considering her eleven-hour ordeal of swatting back a swarm of killer bees, otherwise known as the 8th Benghazi Congressional Committee (only the first two inquiries were bi-partisan). Thanks to the Republican penchant for repeatedly beating a dead horse (and a slip of the lip from the former Pub candidate for speaker) this was largely viewed as a witch hunt even by Pubs, with Hillary the witch and defeat of her presidential presumptives the prize at hand.

Nothing new happened in all those tedious hours except for a televised, and outrageously disrespectful, tantrum by those on the right, determined to find something criminal to hang on her. In the end, it was Hillary’s to lose and she didn’t — she walked away tired but unscathed and looking, the Baggers rue, very presidential.

That whole drill was painful to watch, so I avoided it, checking in from time to time to see how Mrs. Clinton was handling incoming fire. Much was made about her facial expressions this time around, pictures posted on the net, and my favorite was the one where she looked tired and bored, leaning into her palm. This is a former First Lady of the United States of America we’re talking about. She knew exactly what that face portrayed, exactly what her posture represented, exactly what she was doing when she did it. Some would say that’s a cynical take on my part and a scripted response from her, so let me just say this about that: after decades of Hillary-watching and a certain appreciation for the Scorpio energy she is, that was an entirely authentic Hillary move, face in hand. I’m betting she knew she had ’em on the ropes by the time she posed for the camera.

The hot air coming out of D.C. is rhetorical, part of that cauldron bubbling with goo, and all but puts an exclamation point on the week. But elsewhere, suddenly, the air has become much more threatening, with Mexico bracing for the strongest hurricane ever recorded. Hurricane Patricia, a Category 5 — similar to Typhoon Haiyan that did so much damage in the Philippines in 2013 — will likely devastate Puerto Villarta and surrounding resort areas, leaving them “uninhabitable for weeks or months.” Loss of life and property seems unavoidable.

While this event appears to have shocked the meteorological world, due to “explosive intensification” over the last 24 hours, surely we might have predicted it. Climate change is the villain of all this extreme weather, even though we’re still not willing to level an accusing finger. For the moment, El Niño is getting the blame, having produced Pacific water temps of 87 degrees and more, running unusually deep and creating moisture in the air to bring a weather event to the Western Hemisphere that we’ve never seen before. If you’re the praying kind, keep positive thoughts for the well-being of all living things in Patricia’s path.

One last thing I’d like to speak to as we finish up this week’s list of seemingly disparate people and situations, at odds with one another. Today — all day — is a free event called Global Oneness Day, planned by the spiritual community for much of a year. It’s a gathering of world leaders, scientists, entertainers, spiritual leaders, activists, and business leaders, coming together to share a sense of our oneness and mutuality with one another and the planet.

You may recognize some of the names: Iyanla Vanzant, Michael Beckwith, Gary Zukav, Marianne Williamson, Ken Wilber, Barbara Marx Hubbard, Jean Houston, Ervin Laszlo, Neale Donald Walsch, Panache Desai, Nassim Haramein, Dean Radin, Doreen Virtue, Patricia Cota-Robles, Stephen Dinan, Matt Kahn, and a video recording created for the occasion by Desmond Tutu. There are over forty speakers, something for most every interest.

If you’d like to experience this spiritual event, go here. You may discover that this is a day all about you. Every opinion out there, no matter how disconcerting we find it, exists somewhere within each of us or it would have no resonance with us — we would simply move past it without recognizing it. All those issues above, fleshed out in the news of the day — seemingly so disconnected to our daily lives — are part of the larger entity, WE.

They are part of what we are exploring about ourselves, a catalyst for our growth and self-revelation. We can only truly see ourselves in one another. As Marianne Williamson tells us, “A wave cannot separate itself from the ocean, nor can we separate ourselves from each other.”

Politics is personal and the news is as much our own story — yours and mine — as are the stories we’ve shared today. Recognizing and embracing this is the work, making each decision in kindness, compassion  and respect, if we are to evolve our humanity and build a safe and sane world for those who come after, unto the 7th generation — and beyond.

Danielle Voirin’s Photo of the Day for 10.23.15

A la santé de ceux qui osent encore -  cheers to the health of those who still dare (fromthe series DesCollages). 100 years ago today, 50,000 people (2,500 of them men) marched down 5th Avenue in New York City in support of women's' right to vote.  The referendum failed that November, but they thankfully didn't give up or give in, but spent two more years marching and rallying to get the vote in 1917.

A la santé de ceux qui osent encore – cheers to the health of those who still dare (fromthe series DesCollages). 100 years ago today, 50,000 people (2,500 of them men) marched down 5th Avenue in New York City in support of women’s’ right to vote. The referendum failed that November, but they thankfully didn’t give up or give in, but spent two more years marching and rallying to get the vote in 1917.

Paris-based photographer Danielle Voirin travels the world and documents her experiences in photographs. She takes street photography and photojournalism a shade beyond even art, to the level of mysticism. You may see more of her work on her website DanielleVoirin.com, or her alt website, DaniVoirin.com.

Wide Crossing

It’s getting close to Halloween again. Many of you have memories of trick-or-treating as a youngster. Some of you then grew into the role of chaperone for, or host to, costumed children born into the next generation or two. Yet, even as old a practice as it is, Halloween is but a vestige of far more ancient and profound observances.

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We are approaching a midpoint between the beginning of one season and the start of the next. Just as there are four seasons, there are four such middle times in every solar year.

For a surprisingly large and diverse number of ancient cultures, these “cross-quarters” were every bit as important as the days heralding the initiation of a new season.

In most of those ancient traditions, the days surrounding seasonal midpoints represent a period when the veil separating worlds becomes thin. Forms of astrology that are synchronized with the seasons (such as the western tropical astrology practiced here at Planet Waves) are among those traditions.

Science now seriously entertains the possibility of multiple universes existing in parallel with each other. Hence, the ancient interpretation of cross-quarters is an old idea that has recently become new again. As Eric has repeatedly noted for you, this era marked by Uranus in Aries and Pluto in Capricorn moving into and out of a square aspect on the zodiac has been distinguished by many such revivals.

If astrology serves as a touchstone for you, the Sun at the midpoint of Scorpio (which will take place this year on Nov. 7) represents the next cross-quarter. Even so, you may want to consider how the proverbial veil may well be starting to grow thin as soon as this weekend. It has to do with the Sun and Moon, as one might expect. Yet, the two luminaries are not alone indicating something special that distinguishes this particular seasonal midpoint in this particular year.

The Sun initiates the impending mid-season by entering Scorpio shortly before 1:47 pm EDT (17:46:41 UTC) tomorrow. On the heels of the Sun doing its part, the Moon will then follow up in spades.

Next Tuesday at about 8:05 am EDT (12:05 UTC), the Moon will be in Taurus precisely opposing the nascent Scorpio Sun. That opposition, by definition, will be a Full Moon. Not just any Full Moon, either. Rather, an uncommon and implicitly powerful one.

No, next Tuesday’s Full Moon will not be a lunar eclipse — we had one of those at the end of last month. Nonetheless, you might consider this Full Moon worthy of note because it will take place in the precise degree of the zodiac (3+ Taurus) where astrologers consider the Moon to be most powerfully exalted. That does not happen very often. For astrologers what does not happen very often is inherently special, especially where exaltation is involved.

Both the Sun and Moon and all of the classical planets have a sign (or signs) where they are said to rule. The Moon, for example, rules the sign Cancer. Yet a planet can also be exalted, which metaphorically translates to represent all the privileges of rule with none of the responsibilities. That’s how you might say that the upcoming Full Moon will be implicitly capable of transcending any and all boundaries, heralding a time when anything is possible.

To use poker terms then, the Taurus Full Moon on Tuesday will figuratively ‘see’, and then ‘raise’  the mid-seasonal period initiated by the Scorpio Sun tomorrow. And that’s not all.

The infinitely thin boundaries between signs (known as ‘cusps’) may fairly be considered veils in their own right. Such is the often noticeable difference when the Sun and other objects change signs. Right now, a whole heaping handful of those 12 cusps are occupied by interesting celestial objects and prestigious astrological points.

Without going into complicated detail as to the particulars, those occupancies are functioning to indicate a thinning of all veils everywhere. Tomorrow the Sun is going to add to it. Think of doors serendipitously held open wherever you go, and you will get the drift. Just as with the upcoming Full Moon, there are implicitly no limits for you.

Additionally, the cross-quarter between the Libra equinox and Capricorn solstice is looking to be every bit as prolonged as it is pronounced this year. You might say that the midpoint of this season will extend for at least two weeks, beginning tomorrow.

All of us, then, are implicitly about to embark upon a rather wide crossing. To make sure that being able to transcend limits does not lead you into excess, you may want to consider not making that crossing alone. Find a buddy, or better yet, collaborate with a group. It will not matter so much what you are getting together to do. Simply getting together will be a good start.

Let your cooperative consultations be without agenda so as not to limit possibility, but have some general guidelines. Work together with others for what amounts to a mutual benefit. Endeavor with others to maximize transcendence and minimize transgression. If you can do only that for the next few weeks or so, you could very well find yourself having gone farther in some sense than you previously thought possible in such a short amount of time.

It will be interesting to see what we find on the other side.

Offered In Service

 

 

Danielle Voirin’s Photo of the Day for 10.22.15

The old military fort on the French island Belle Ile en Mer, that The Divine Sarah Bernhardt (sometimes called The Scandalous) converted into her summer haven. The famous actress may have been born on October 22, 1844, though her original birth certificate burned during the Paris Commune.  She created a new one, but there are inconsistencies and she was generally known to have had a casual relationship with the truth.  She is famously reported to have replied to Oscar Wilde's, "Do you mind if I smoke?" with, "I don't care if you burn."

The old military fort on the French island Belle Ile en Mer, that The Divine Sarah Bernhardt (sometimes called The Scandalous) converted into her summer haven. The famous actress may have been born on October 22, 1844, though her original birth certificate burned during the Paris Commune. She created a new one, but there are inconsistencies and she was generally known to have had a casual relationship with the truth. She is famously reported to have replied to Oscar Wilde’s, “Do you mind if I smoke?” with, “I don’t care if you burn.”

Paris-based photographer Danielle Voirin travels the world and documents her experiences in photographs. She takes street photography and photojournalism a shade beyond even art, to the level of mysticism. You may see more of her work on her website DanielleVoirin.com, or her alt website, DaniVoirin.com.

Taking a Look Under Your Hood

By Amanda Painter

Are you ready to look under the hood? As in, under the hood of your relationships, under the hood of your beliefs, under the hood of some of your more self-critical thoughts and undermining emotions — perhaps even under the hood of something that has been developing in the background for months?

In this photo from July 1, Venus and Jupiter can be seen together in the evening sky; currently they are visible just before dawn. Photo by Amanda Painter.

In this photo from July 1, Venus and Jupiter can be seen together in the evening sky, in the center of the photo; currently they are visible just before dawn. Photo by Amanda Painter.

If you’re not a mechanic, it makes sense to be intimidated by the prospect of poking around the inner workings of your car.

But here’s the thing about looking below the surface of yourself and your relationships: you don’t need any special training to know what feels good and what does not; you don’t have to go to a technical school to know what is working or not — though the questions of ‘why’ and how to ‘fix’ things might call for some research or assistance.

True, there are languages and systems of symbols and techniques that you can study (such as psychology or astrology, or particular modalities of therapy and spiritual healing) that can help you to make sense of it all and make changes. But simply knowing your own heart or mind? That understanding is open to anyone who is willing to look at it. The problem is how many people are not willing to look under the metaphorical hood of themselves.

So, then: what’s in the astrology to bring up this metaphor? Several things, actually.

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Dear Madame Zolonga: Why is the 5th house ‘fun’?

Dear Madame,

Something’s always bugged me about the 5th house, and maybe you can help me understand it better. I associate ‘fixed’ houses with stubbornness and tenacity. And you’ve said the fixed signs are often about survival questions. So I wonder how the 5th house, which is a ‘fixed’ house, ended up being the place where it’s all happiness and joy and kids playing?

I see how Leo fits the ‘star quality’ that might lead to joy, but honestly, I’m not sure how this match fits except when we use it with modern entertainers. Can you explain why the 5th house is supposed to be ‘fun’?

— Ann

Dear Ann,

You’ve sent me a great question. Here’s the easy answer: aspect.

Classical astrologers (we’re talking B.C.E.) said Venus ‘joys’ in the 5th house, calling it the ‘House of Good Fortune.’ Why? Well, in part, because the 5th house makes an easy aspect to the ascending house. If a person were sitting in the 1st house, the reach to the 5th requires no turning or twisting in order to make the connection.

The relationship is easy. Pleasant. So there’s the simple answer to why we call it ‘fun’. Venus is surely the source of most pleasure, isn’t she?

But there’s more! First, it’s essentially important when you’re talking about any house to know that houses are NOT signs: the sign Leo is NOT the same as the 5th house. Thanks to some 20th century astrologers who created a little mnemonic learning device called the Astrological Alphabet, they’ve been conflated.

To be fair, astrologers who taught it (like Zipporah Dobryns) made a point of saying a ≠ b regarding houses and signs, but you may have noticed that people tend not to read carefully. How much the 5th house represents the activities and character of Leo is much debated in certain quarters, with some astrologers pointing out that older descriptions of the sign Leo hardly fit the profile of someone you’d invite in for Yatzee Night.

Still, someone with a slew of planets in the 5th house may seem to come off like a Leo, even if they have no planets in Leo. So what gives?

If you follow the ancient Egyptian practice of orienting the quality of the houses by following the motion of the Sun — that is, clockwise motion — the 5th house succeeds (follows) the 6th house, and precedes the 4th house of rootedness and grounding. And because the 6th house is cadent (that is, it ‘falls away’ from the descendant — the strong horizontal line on the right-hand side of a chart), the 5th house begins to look like the spot where, (after you tripped in the 6th) you scrambled back to your feet with a flourish. Ta-da! Meant to do that!

The 5th is where you regain your balance after your fall in the 6th. It’s a space of stabilization, but also uncertainty. Where is this leading to next?

Here are some purely personal musings. What would it look like if you met someone who was persistently attempting to right themselves, but can’t seem to get on with the next step? You might call them ‘fixated’, yes? (We actually draw the ‘fixed’ idea from the fixed stars — stars that move so slowly as to appear permanent — associated with the original constellations assigned to the Zodiac.)

So according to the Egyptian system, the 5th house is where, after we stumble, we don’t have to fall. The 5th house is not a fixed house. Leo is a fixed sign — it is associated by order of the ecliptic with a succedent house; that is, an intermediate house: a ‘safe’ zone where things are neither beginning nor ending (or turning into the next thing). If the Sun represents the principle of Ego, this is where the Sun/ego dusts itself off and sorts out what just happened. It’s a blessing.

However, what if you read the houses counter-clockwise? Then the 5th follows (succeeds) the 4th house. If we apply a bit of developmental psychology to the matter we can say, for instance, that the 5th house of play and experimentation succeeds the 4th house of family orientation and security.

Here we’re on more familiar ground. The idea is that we need the grounding of a home, or family, in order to go out into the yard and play. Anyone who works with children knows that having a safe home base (4th house) leads to a willingness to take risks, to ask questions, to wander off a bit and see what’s going on.

Then the 5th house becomes the pleasant Venusian garden of play, improvisation, imagination and experimentation. Like musicians rehearsing for a concert, this is where we rehearse for more public performances in life. The paradox is that for all that uncertainty to happen, one needs a secure (a ‘fixed’) setting with clear boundaries in which to mess about.

Consider the implications of that idea. What would happen if one had an insecure 4th house identity? The successive house might bear more of a burden in compensating for that. Perhaps play would be too serious an adventure, as that person tries to make up for what they don’t get at home. And on it goes.

The point is, in both of these models, the 5th house of fun is a place of recovery and pleasure. What you call ‘fun’ depends on the rest of the chart. A more secure person will laugh off a stumble if their Solar Self’s in good condition. A child will playfully adopt imaginary characters in games if they have a secure understanding of their basic identity. A baby will explore the living room happily if she knows Momma’s not far away. And (keeping this seasonal) some adults love getting the crap scared out of them, if they know the haunted house is just a safe zone of ‘pretend’.

And there you go — to the 5th for fun!

— Madame Z

Planet Waves Daily Oracle for Wednesday, Oct. 21, 2015

Today’s Oracle takes us to the Aquarius weekly for Oct. 4, 2007

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Others seem to be driving a hard bargain, but are just covering up the softer side of their nature. Most people substitute for passion by emoting. You potentially fit this description, and you’re intelligent enough to know that there is a third way. That way involves opening up a breathline to your soul, and drawing that energy into your heart and mind. It has been said that the heart is the smartest organ, and we all wish more people would use their heads. Yet it is the soul that is the author of experience, and the mediator of what we call karma. Your soul is gentler than any other part of you. And these days, it’s rising up like Old Faithful.

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