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Following last week’s discussion regarding how the 24th degree in a handful of signs are being lit up by current astrological aspects, it now seems appropriate to focus on how one specific degree of one sign in particular is about to be rung up repeatedly. That would be the first degree of Gemini.

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Periodically over the years, Eric has remarked about how the degrees in which an eclipse (especially a solar eclipse) takes place are marked afterwards to the extent where “They tend to function as planetary points.” 

Those ostensible “planetary points” bear watching for what Eric has referred to as “the synchronicities of what occurs when those degrees of the zodiac are activated.” Such an activation is about to take place in proverbial spades.

Back on May 20, 2012, an annular solar eclipse took place in the first degree of Gemini. It was a visually dramatic event. The only difference between a total solar eclipse and the annular variety is that an annular eclipse takes place when the Sun and Moon come together near the lunar apogee — the point of the Moon’s orbit furthest from Earth — as well as near a lunar node.

As result, the Moon does not quite conceal the Sun completely. Instead, it leaves a ring of light (or “annulus”) surrounding the New Moon’s profound appearance as a spot of absolute blackness in the middle of the brightest object in our sky. 

Besides its dramatic appearance, the May 20, 2012, eclipse was notable for several reasons. It was the first annular eclipse visible in the continental U.S. since May 10, 1994. It also closed the astrological chapter initiated by the previous (partial) solar eclipse in the first degree of Gemini on May 21, 1993.

In addition, the first solar eclipse of 2012 not only preceded a lunar eclipse two weeks later (as one would expect) but also served as a spectacular preview for something even more monumental. That was, in essence, another type of eclipse: Venus transiting the face of the Sun for the last time in this century on June 5, 2012.

Each year since annular eclipse of May 2012, the Sun entering Gemini has served to re-mark the May 20 eclipse. This year, the solar ingress to Gemini shortly before 10:37 am EDT (14:36:25 UTC) on Friday will be just the beginning. A little more than 24 hours later, the Sagittarius Full Moon will oppose the Sun. Last but not least, Venus will enter Gemini early next week to promptly oppose retrograde Mars — just before Mars leaves Sagittarius to return to Scorpio.

That’s a lot of synchronicity. It is as though May of 1993 and 1994 are being drawn forward and merged with May of 2012 and May of 2014 (the last time Venus opposed Mars) in some significant way. It is as if a point marked by an exceptional eclipse is about to be remarked upon by the cosmos itself in such as way as to invite you to make a mark (or remark) of your own.

This does not mean you should undertake anything outside of what’s realistic, responsible or appropriate for you. Rather, you might want to examine your life for any unfinished business that should have been completed in 2012 or 2014. Additionally, consider furthering or otherwise building upon any endeavors you have undertaken in the last four years, with an eye towards some sort of culmination, if not completion.

You are undeniably part of what’s going around to come around both above and below. The extent to which you have chosen to consciously take ownership of your part with awareness and purpose will undoubtedly show some results in the days to come.

The next week or so implies a chance for you to pull a lot of things together, and to open yourself to the possibilities represented by one of those exceptional moments in time when all of time might be said to be present. Give yourself a chance to be fully present with these days, and you will surely make your mark quite well.

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In The Eye Of The Beholder

In the first few years of this century, I wrote about the death of American college student Rachel Corrie, at the razing of Palestinian homes in Gaza. The demolition site had been declared a combat zone in the ongoing hostility between Hamas gun-runners and the Israeli army. Eventually, the bulldozer driver who ran Rachel down was proclaimed innocent by an Israeli military investigation, her death ruled accidental. That was a long time ago, as politics go, but it was a moment that severed the first strings of unquestioned loyalty to Zionism.

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At the time, I was advocating for an end to settlers encroaching on land that had long been held by Palestinian families, and another grim and punishing intifada by the Israeli government. With the majority of Americans unquestioningly supportive of Israel, I was, essentially, spitting into the wind at the time; but my concern was not just for the situation at hand but for the generational signature that warring produces.

When one is raised in war, anxious from the cradle, subjected to violence and death, steeped in heated rhetoric and injustice, one’s internal gyroscope will be set to survival, resentment, hatred. We see it everywhere we look when we peel back the ‘what’ and examine the ‘why’.

We see it in Africa, where child soldiers seem inured to death and killing. We see it in Syria where those fighting on the ground, including both the U.S. Pentagon and CIA, are connected so incestuously to one another that we can’t tell the players without a score card — sometimes, not even then. We see it wherever ISIS works its dark mojo, merciless, drug-addled and mindless in its attempt to punish those not pure enough to suit its brutal version of God.

This kind of psychological imprint doesn’t need declared war to warp our children. In Colombia, in Rio, in Yemen and in most every third-world country we can think of, poverty has locked the population into a culture of tyranny and victimization by war lords or drug cartels. In the farthest reaches of the jungle, corporate bullies take without permission, confident in international trade laws that favor them.

And let’s not forget that America has its own versions of Rachel Corrie, run down by the machinery of authoritarianism and race hatred. They have names like Trayvon and Tamir and Sandra, and they stumbled into danger unwittingly, with even less awareness than did our idealistic young peace activist. Now, the movement to convince us that their lives do, indeed, matter is under attack by those who have decided they don’t.

I’ve read several articles lately informing me that now the cat’s out of the bag: America is a racist nation. The irony that Obama, as the first black president, would have become an even more hated (possible?) individual, his authority ignored and obstructed, if he’d attempted to lift up his own race can’t be lost on us.

Truthiness has won the debate. Statistics show that over half of conservatives in general, and Republicans specifically, believe Obama to be a Muslim born in Kenya, strategically placed to further the Democratic agenda. How this devious plot occurred, and authored by whom, is neither asked nor answered; it’s simply believed wholeheartedly by those who want it to be true.

This week, George Zimmerman — poster child for race hatred and vigilantism — decided to put the gun he used to kill Trayvon Martin up for sale to the highest bidder. It was, he declared, “a piece of American History,” and he would use some of the money to fight against government injustice, Black Lives Matter and Clinton’s anti-gun rhetoric.

We allowed this man to get away with murder, proclaim himself a hero against the frightening (and largely illusory) specter of faceless troublemakers everywhere, and now we’re allowing him to make a Holy Grail of the weaponry he used to do it. Thanks to the founders who MUST have known what a can of worms they’d opened, we have no choice.

The First Amendment of our Constitution gives Zimmerman the liberty of free speech, so long as he isn’t yelling fire in a crowded theater. And yet, while some of us are sure beyond a doubt that that same Constitution asks us to weaponize and defend ourselves against the dreaded ‘outsider’, others of us wonder if open carry and belligerence bordering on provocation aren’t the very equivalent of yelling “fire!”

That’s where we find ourselves today, on either side of a divide that can be quickly identified by party affiliation, shifting back toward their earliest roots. It bears repeating that we are still arguing over states’ rights and the power of the federation.

The quasi-historians who say we fought the Civil War over states’ fiscal matters, not slavery, fail to mention that — thanks to Eli Whitney’s cotton gin — the cotton-dependent economy of the south required a massive influx of cheap labor. So, with black folks considered ‘farm implements’ — as one old boy around here likes to tell it — the entirety of the southern economy rested on the broad shoulders of continued human ownership.

Freeing the slaves was about as popular in the Confederacy as phasing out coal is to mining investors in West Virginia today. Just as mining regularly kills its workers off through environmental hazards, slavery had a similar effect due to strenuous working conditions and harsh treatment. Yet the south will still defend their battle flag and cultural station as superior to those they’d previously — with God’s approval, mind you — owned.

They can’t help themselves. This is their mythology; without it they believe they will lose their cultural identity. These are the historical bones of their very tribe, now endangered by the mixing of racial identity and the laws that require equality. This is their un-won war, quietly played out in decades of pent-up resentment against a government they despise.

This un-won war against government removed them from a class distinction they have romanticized over the years, as powerful and potent as the conspiracy theories they favor over truth. That elevated class distinction has almost faded from sight now, leaving them mere mortals, subject to ‘liberal’ law. This is the basis of their war mentality, with Trump their new General mounted on a white charger.

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When someone like Donald comes along — playing to their bias in school yard taunts, beating tribal drums and promising what he’ll never deliver — he replaces FOX News in their minds, the contrived source of information they bathed in to cleanse themselves of all outsider influence pulling at their tattered self-image.

That most of what they were fed were lies built on innuendo and based on fantasy didn’t hit home until the pipe dreams failed to manifest. Trump is their brightest hope since Goldwater, and the Klan rallies of the 1920s before that.

If they were better students of history, they’d be less enthused by Donald and his big wall, braggart’s tone and doody-headed name calling. They had a less crass and craven example of similar energy with George W., and we know how that turned out.

In fact, if they were better students of history, they’d have licked their wounds, hitched up their knickers and moved on from their pity-pot long ago. And be warned: those of us on the other side of the political spectrum need to police our own sensibilities for this kind of destructive self-pity. Our lives have been tossed by the current energies as well — just yesterday’s news, if we don’t drag it along with us.

Blaming isn’t productive, nor is gaining from someone else’s loss. The notion that some of the millennials will cross over to support Trump may be true, but if so, these voters were never progressive to begin with, and really were after “free stuff.”

We must be mindful of what we build next. Vietnamese monk Thich Nhat Hanh tells us:

“We have the Statue of Liberty on the East Coast. But in the name of freedom, people have done a lot of damage. I think we have to build a Statue of Responsibility on the West Coast in order to counterbalance. Because liberty without responsibility is not true liberty. We are not free to destroy.”

What we see in Trump — in the Trumpeters, et al — must be met with a compassionate heart. Our brothers and sisters are the product of that same generational programming I saw at work in Gaza years ago. Much as pit bulls are taught to fight to the death, racism and classism are passed along like a virus, one generation to the next.

To defeat Trump — and all those like him — we need to remember, as Thich warns, “Hatred and fear blind us. We no longer see each other. We only see the faces of monsters, and that gives us the courage to destroy each other.”

When we look into the eyes of those across the breach and behold the child within them, it will give us the courage to forgive and choose the way forward in calm and clear intention, to find the way of peace and love.

That Which Outlasts Mercury Retrograde

By Rob Moore

I have seen it time and time again: fragile new connections that undergo a shift during some part of a Mercury retrograde phase. Mark, Sandy, Travis and a position at an animation studio that was almost in my lap each disintegrated just as the communication planet turned either retrograde or direct. But then along came James, Zack, Ethan and a freelance opportunity that served, once and for all, to reverse my own thinking about Mercury retrograde.

"A Reconsidering" by Rob Moore.

“A Reconsidering” by Rob Moore.

Just under 20 years ago, while I was gathering enough evidence to feel confident in astrology, I became very astute about the regularly recurring Mercury retrograde. Back then, this transit was most often interpreted by astrologers as something of a horror. I’m certainly glad to no longer be that guy who, for all intents and purposes, hid under the bed for a month. I’m also elated that in more recent times our astrology consciousness has expanded significantly beyond such fear.

As we enter the last week of this year’s second Mercury retrograde, it is the effects on opportunities to join that I’m focusing on at today. If you’re looking for an article with more steam this weekend, I would recommend Eric’s feature article Mercury and Mars Retrograde: The Underlying Question that went out to subscribers Thursday. In addition to some pertinent sexual food for thought, Eric makes a valuable point about retrograde planets by stating, “There is the retrieval of something that was previously disowned or taken away.”

In my earlier years, however, I wasn’t trying to consciously apply Mercury retrograde. I was trying to go unnoticed by it. But it was only for a few years that I tried desperately not to do or — for this hoof-in-mouth Sagg — say anything at all for over three weeks straight. It was rapidly demonstrated that any attempts at completely shutting down were futile. Besides, like clockwork, I have regularly been bombarded with relationship and creative opportunities when Mercury performs its reversal illusion.

Still, I resisted. Hard. One of my deep dreads in this life is having nothing come of what I’ve given my all. The very idea that under Mercury retrograde I would accept the world’s greatest job and relocate (if merely across town), only to have them change their minds once Mercury went direct, is an idea that has never sat well with me.

A few weeks back I related the story of my relationship with Travis, which arose under Mercury retrograde and rapidly went south, albeit by my own heavy-handedness. This was my first conscious awareness that, like career opportunities, if Mercury was apparently moving backwards, the suitors will come a-knockin’. And as events with Travis seemed to demonstrate, such opportunities were better off left at the door.

So what is a diligent subscriber to astrology to do? Well, with each passing retrograde, I began to look deeper… for the exceptions. Among my most striking discoveries was that General Motors was founded during Mercury retrograde. Indeed, they have been through numerous changes — not the least of which involves heavy cutbacks in recent years — but hardly a company whose long history could be described as a failure.

There would, however, be a far more riveting discovery for me. Once I delved deep enough into astrology to have my natal chart drawn up, I learned that I was born under Mercury retrograde. Possessing cherished writing and communication ambitions, this really set me in a tailspin. I already had a history of having my intentions misunderstood by people. Mercury, I concluded, was the reason and that was the end of that.

My hope was soon restored, however, upon learning that Mercury retrograde was in the natal chart of arguably the world’s best-known astrologer, Jonathan Cainer, whose passing took us by surprise last week. I was quick to recognize that he had not only successfully brought a higher form of writing to astrology, but millions hinged on what he was obviously communicating quite clearly every day.

As the evidence piled up that my life assignment was to work with Mercury retrograde instead of run from it, I began to experiment. The greatest opportunities generally arose in the romantic and sexual departments. I basically took a deep breath and decided to dive headfirst into relationship situations I figured could be snatched away as soon as Mercury turned direct or be a nightmare or not be what they seemed — or all the above.

One pattern I have been faced with again and again involves those whom I feel an attraction toward despite the fact that they rarely give me the time of day. Mark was one such guy. After not seeing him for weeks, we began to run into each other during one particular Mercury retrograde. This time around he began to show an interest in me. He demonstratively wanted to get closer. He seemed deeply interested in the person he was at last getting to know.

Having decided to go with the flow of Mercury retrograde developments, Mark and I spent the retrograde period establishing our very basic mutual interest in each other. When plans were finally made to do something together, it fell on a date when Mercury would be direct again. By the time that day rolled around, Mark had lost interest again and the whole thing poofed into thin air. Except for the anger I was left to work through. Anger mostly at myself for giving Mercury retrograde a chance.

I could go on and on with tales of individuals who did an about face when Mercury turned retrograde. With each experience, however, I found myself able to get more philosophical about the whole thing. I began to look at what had transpired that somehow gave me vital insight into other areas of life.

As each retrograde suitor has come along, I have therefore offered the situation to my guidance and left the door open to whatever resulted. As I have stuck with it — both partnership interests and career opportunities — I have noticed another frequent pattern. Many times, the same exact people and opportunities return under each successive retrograde.

For the longest time, I still viewed this as a less-than-desirable set of circumstances. Desirable or not, for years and years now my most cherished opportunities have re-presented themselves during Mercury retrograde. So my next move was to determine how this could result in a flow of events that worked in the best interests of all involved.

Once in this frame of mind, the pattern I have noticed is actually rather encouraging. As time has marched on (or is it my consciousness?), key situations seem to have shifted to envelope the length of the entire retrograde phase. Connections and opportunities that have begun to solidify when Mercury is direct often enter some notable new chapter on the first day of Mercury’s shadow phase. This may be a planned event that falls on that first shadow day or an unforeseen convergence of factors.

In this set of circumstances, with Mercury still direct yet slowing, this leaves a great span of time for things to concretely develop. Once Mercury turns retrograde, it’s usually only small details that need to be ironed out. Maybe twice, even. Still, the big picture stays solidly intact.

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But there’s more going on here than the effects seen during retrograde. A shift has taken place in how I approach and appreciate relationships. A shift that would not have happened if I had not decided to give myself to the experience of Mercury retrograde.

I have been surprised, relieved and a little humbled in the last year or so by some Mercury retrograde newcomers on my scene — James, Zack and Ethan — whose integrity has not been dented during the length of these recurring transits.

Unlike the pattern in the past wherein such new connections rip off the mask (or slide one on) as soon as Mercury seemingly turns backwards, my heart has skipped a few beats to find that James has no mask. And that Zack’s personality has remained steady. And that mutual respect continues to grow between Ethan and me.

In terms of career opportunities that show up during Mercury retrograde, it’s a major overhaul of my own outlook and my own expectations that has resulted. Some while back I concluded that being a free agent is the most gratifying path for me. I have also seen through the years that I regularly need to pull back and refuel my creative stores. Therefore, if the big projects only come through around Mercury retrograde, I am beginning to see how that may be exactly what the doctor ordered. I believe there’s a reason things happen as they do. I would like very much once and for all to settle into that idea.

In all likelihood, many more Mercury retrogrades lie ahead of me. I have no delusions that no more masks will ever be involved, nor that a situation will never again do an about face. Today, however, I realize there are heartfelt connections that have their roots well outside Mercury retrograde; even if that’s when they appear to touch ground. Today, I am confident it’s worth finding out if that’s true. That has everything to do with deciding to give the oft misunderstood astrological transit-of-misunderstandings a chance to show me what it really means.

A Matter of Degrees

Today is the only Friday the 13th this year. No use avoiding that fact. One thing that brings up is the subject of numbers. Numbers, in turn, figure into astrology — especially as regards to the 360 degrees that contribute to define all circles, including the zodiac circle. It was not always that way, however.

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The 360 degrees of the zodiac circle are essentially measures of longitude. Longitude, in turn, corresponds closely with the earthly and third-dimensional experience commonly called time.

Before people had accurate ways of measuring time, degrees could not be as accurately determined as they are now. Hence, degrees were not always as big a deal for astrology. Maybe it was better that way, maybe it wasn’t.

Since there currently appears to be no practical way to go back in time, we have to deal with things as they are now. As things are now, there is no avoiding the fact that modern astrology is very much a matter of degrees. That’s especially true if and when certain numbers keep coming up repeatedly.

Even ancient astrologers without accurate clocks recognized that repetitions usually indicate either cycles or other types of patterns. Cycles and patterns, in turn, provide a way to project order onto events. Perceiving order provides at least the potential for orientation in, and even some understanding of, your life. The question is whether that which is perceived is meaningful or meaningless.

That very question came up not so long ago when Planet Waves reader Suzette van Hauen Drucker wrote in to share her observation regarding 23+ degrees and the recent spate of sign-ruling planets concurrently in retrograde.

Specifically, it seems noteworthy (at least) to correlate three such cases. The first case is Jupiter, which this week concluded a retrograde that initiated at 23+ degrees Virgo on Jan. 7, 2016. Next, note that the retrograde of Mars (which is still in progress) will conclude at 23+ degrees Scorpio on June 29. Finally, the current Mercury retrograde started at 23+ degrees Taurus back on April 28.

When you employ Eric’s astrological rule of thumb that once is a fluke, twice is a coincidence and three times is a pattern, Suzette’s observations imply the potential of meaningful interpretation all by themselves.

But wait, there’s more.

Today, on a day which (at least) brings up the subject of numbers, the Sun is at 23+ degrees Taurus, and the Moon is 90 degrees away at 23+ degrees Leo. This marks the lunar first quarter. Any first quarter Moon is meaningful if only because it orients you in time. That’s because half-lit Luna, visible high in the sky at sunset, marks the temporal halfway point between the most recent New Moon and the next Full Moon. In the case of today’s lunar first quarter, the orientation in question could be applied towards an even longer period of time because of what’s coming up on June 9.

On June 9, Uranus will conjoin (share the same degree of the same sign with) Eris for the first time in nearly 90 years, at — you guessed it — 23+ Aries. As Eric has repeatedly pointed out (most eloquently in yesterday’s weekly edition published for Planet Waves subscribers), Uranus conjunct Eris, when taken in context with the Mercury and Mars retrogrades, is nothing less than a big deal. Implicitly, it provides some meaningful orientation (and possibly some orienting meaning) for your life.

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Regardless of what you consider meaningful, however, it’s implicitly clear that we are way beyond fluke or coincidence regarding the 24th degree (another way of saying 23+ degrees).

At least five different signs have been lighting up in that degree in the same year, correlating to some of the most auspicious astrology in many years. The fact of that illumination culminating with the Sun and Moon today (of all days this year) strongly implies that today will not be unlucky in the least.

On the contrary, the theme of widespread connection throughout the zodiac cannot be considered anything other than good fortune. For along with that theme comes an indication of the most profound kind of universal order: oneness.

When you look at the astrology and correlate it with current events, as well as with developments in other fields of human endeavor, there’s no use avoiding the fact that you are not alone. Whether through your inner or outer perceptions, you cannot deny repeated indications of connection between your life and the lives of any and every other. The only real differences are matters of degree, and even there the separations are closing.

Of course there are those who make it their business to drive us apart and divide us from one another. After all, there is profit to be made from promulgating conflict and selling the illusion of being somehow superior. If there is anything to not only the astrology, but also the sciences and arts of our time, however, those who divide in order to conquer are in the process of squandering their influence and becoming anachronistic epitomes of meaninglessness.

Therefore, it is with no small degree of auspicious irony that today’s astrology implies a very real opportunity for you to do something, however small, to bring all of us together. After all, the best luck is made to happen. Do something to make today a lucky day in somebody’s life, and you just might find how close all of us already are.

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Danielle Voirin’s Photo of the Day for 05.13.16

A relationship carved in stone at the Louvre.

A relationship carved in stone at the Louvre.

Paris-based photographer Danielle Voirin travels the world and documents her experiences in photographs. She takes street photography and photojournalism a shade beyond even art, to the level of mysticism. You may see more of her work on her website DanielleVoirin.com, or her alt website, DaniVoirin.com.

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Danielle Voirin’s Photo of the Day for 05.12.16

Three useful fingers, beckoning at the Louvre.

Three useful fingers, beckoning at the Louvre.

Paris-based photographer Danielle Voirin travels the world and documents her experiences in photographs. She takes street photography and photojournalism a shade beyond even art, to the level of mysticism. You may see more of her work on her website DanielleVoirin.com, or her alt website, DaniVoirin.com.

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Beautiful Mind, Intelligent Body, Artful Emotions

By Amanda Painter

This weekend’s astrological highlights are definitely emphasizing the tangible ways that you can process your thoughts and emotions. That is, going beyond ‘just’ thinking or feeling, and involving your body, your environment or some kind of direct contact with others looks like the way to go. I’ll give a few examples:

— Gardening sits at the top of the list, thanks to key planets in Taurus.

Detail from "The Tree of Life" by Laura Fuller.

Detail from “The Tree of Life” by Laura Fuller. Photo by Amanda Painter.

— Engaging actively in any kind of artistic process, with bonus points for things that get you out from behind the computer screen (painting, drawing, photography, dancing, acting, singing, playing an instrument, sculpture, paper collage…you get the idea).

— Heart-to-heart conversation with a loved one, especially if you can have it while together in person and (if appropriate/comfortable), physically touching.

— Any kind of therapy, astrology, psychology, coaching or spiritual healing session aimed at helping you to understand yourself on a deeper level.

— Experiences, events or spaces that engage your physical senses and your mind in some appreciation of beauty (i.e., museums, poetry readings, live music, attending the theater, strolling through gardens, and so on).

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Healing the Healer

By Amanda Moreno

Sometimes I wish I could predict when my more introverted phases would occur. After fighting the script for a while, I’m quite aware that the side of me that needs alone time to recharge is quite real, but that sometimes it’s more real than others.

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Photo by graywacke/A Landing a Day

After a few weeks spent assisting at some pretty intense trainings, my reserves are almost entirely depleted and decompression has been a stunted process due to some traveling I’ve done just after the trainings ended.

Although I’m immensely grateful to get to do the work I do, all I want to do is be alone in my own energy for a while, maybe get a massage or four, and not hold space for anyone else’s process — I have no idea where I am in my own.

A question that’s been floating through my mind lately is: who heals the healer? I suppose you could substitute other people for ‘healer’ here — who nurtures the mother? Who holds space for the therapist? Who holds up the leader when the leader feels weak or exhausted?

I should be honest here. I have somewhat of a stubborn resistance to using the term ‘healer’ to describe myself. There are many reasons. I can be distrustful when I hear the term flung around, and have similar suspicions when someone not in an indigenous culture calls themself a shaman. I don’t quite trust that humility will win out over hubris. Perhaps that’s my own shadow coming out.

The biggest reason, however, is not so much a denial of who I am or what I do — which is to say that I do in fact facilitate healing processes — but instead probably has to do with the fact that I very much believe in the importance of people learning how to heal themselves. Not in a vacuum and not without the help and support of friends, family, community and those in the healing professions who can guide and advise; yet primarily through their own direct efforts. I will probably never use the term ‘healer’ on my website or in practice because I don’t want to give people an opening to hand me all of their power.

Our culture is very much based on the teachings and quite insidious philosophies of several salvation-based religions. More specifically speaking, the major religions of the world in one way or another teach that life in these human bodies is suffering, and that we need something outside of ourselves to save us — or that only when we die will we attain a state of non-suffering.

Some religions financially capitalize on these beliefs. Some teach us to transcend, which often just looks to me like spiritual bypassing, especially when taken out of the religion’s original cultural context and placed into a culture like ours, where headlines and taglines reign supreme. Some teach us that buying something — be it a new yoga mat, TV or pharmaceutical — will be the insta-fix to what ails us.

I’m also increasingly aware of the ways codependency is romanticized in our relationship models. I just read an article based on one woman’s experiences that hit pretty close to home. She was talking to her younger self — the self who would listen to her lovers’ woes, help them to dissect their psychological complexes, and allow herself to be used as a developmental tool for them without receiving much in return. Codependency can occur when we base our sense of self-worth on the identity we are given by another. In this case, it would be the identity of savior or martyr.

At this point in my life, I have moved to the other end of the spectrum romantically speaking. When a man walks in who starts using me as a counselor right off the bat, I get cranky and the thoughts that go through my head are less than supportive. Although I will mention my difficulty right off the bat, red flags start blaring in my head. On the other hand, when a man comes in who mentions being in therapy and talks about things he’s learned from past relationships and ways he identifies his own triggers or complexes, and ways he’s dealt with his own trauma, I get all warm and tingly inside. I don’t want to save anyone but myself.

That’s not to say there isn’t a place for supporting, communicating, and working things out in relationship. Of course there is — there has to be! But I’m so over playing the role of healer or therapist in my relationships. I’m doing my own work, and I’m insistent that those I’m romantically invested in do as well. In that way, we enter an interdependent, potentially co-healing dynamic. I’m much more interested in that than in being someone else’s savior.

It takes some serious balls to face your own suffering and begin to work with it, understand it, transform it and heal it. At this point, it would seem we all need intensive healing — and there is no one-size-fits-all formula.

As someone who definitely consults with and makes use of the services of many different types of healers, I know the value of having friends along the way. As someone who tends to crave a partner who can just hold me at the end of the day and not ask me any questions, I understand the nuances of relating and figuring out needs and wants and asking for them. I also tend to fall at the far end of the “no one else is responsible for meeting my needs, and I need to own my own shit” spectrum, which I realize is not a way of life that is meant for everyone.

But asking someone to do the work for me? Or to tell me flat out what I should do in a given situation? That just seems too disempowering even if I crave the ease of it from time to time. We seem so trained to fling our power outside of ourselves. What we have to reclaim, I believe, is our ability to create our own realities through experience and plunging into it, getting feedback about what works and what doesn’t through our own physical and emotional bodies as well as the insight of others, and then making adjustments accordingly.

In my romantic relationships, I’m happy to offer up all that I am to worthy partners, but I’ve had some tough lessons along the path of learning how to be discerning about what “worthy partners” means to me. I don’t want to be taken for granted.

In my friendships and family relationships, I heartily believe in love with detachment much of the time. I try to be present and supportive, but also let my loved ones make their own decisions and find their own paths. With my clients, I do my best to be friend and ally and to speak honestly when asked questions. These answers always come with the disclaimer that the client’s own experience and autonomy trump my beliefs.

My role as I see it is to help people to relocate the power of healing back within their own heart center in order to re-awaken the root, sacral and solar plexus centers of security, sexuality and power — whether I’m doing that as astrologer, coach, or guide through past lives and the afterlife.

I am sometimes enraged at the ways in which our culture — which I will here refer to as the patriarchy — has cut us off from our own power. Someone recently mentioned to me the horror of the burning times, when so many were burned at the stake, with flames that burned out the power centers of their chakra systems one by one. I’d never really thought of it that way.

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I also believe that we’re all complicit in everything that has taken place. We’ve all participated in one way or another in human history, as perpetrator and as victim.

And so for those of us who can and want to seek outside guidance and support, I’m grateful for groups of people I would refer to as ‘healers,’ even just because it’s an easy label to use, and even if I don’t like using it for myself. Be it for objective listening or for the guidance of someone who has knowledge of systems we haven’t had time or interest in studying.

As for my original question — who heals the healer? — one wise friend responded with the answer of “the universe.” I sense a truth in that. There’s power there. But it does not account for my own need for human companionship, particularly among those who see through to the core of who I am and are strong enough to hold space for me.

Taking that a step further, it does not account for my need to be held and physically touched by those types of individuals. My soul and spirit seem to be in agreement that my human body needs the comfort of physical touch, even if I’m just wanting to be alone.

There seems to be a quiet conundrum surrounding that need, with which I’m existing in tension at the moment. I don’t like that I see so many healing types around me who are somewhat isolated by the very nature of the work they do. We are one group among many who need community and connection with kindreds to be available — and hopefully that’s something the universe will continue to work with us on.