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Choose Yes

In this article, available in full on the Cosmophilia website, Cynthia Neil ponders what she considers to be the most powerful and under-appreciated gift of being human: our power to choose. — Amanda P.

by Cynthia Neil

By any measure we are living in tumultuous, even revolutionary times. Religious zealots around the world are slaughtering each other, as well as anybody else with a belief system ‘offensive’ to their own. Multinational corporations are trying to control and manipulate the food supply from seed to table. Plagues are crossing international borders, and ignorance and greed rule the governing processes from one end of the world to the other.

Photo by Danielle Voirin

Photo by Danielle Voirin

How easy it is to wonder, “What in the world am I doing here? Did I really choose this? Do I have a purpose? Are we random sparks in an infinite universe?

“Do I really belong HERE?”

The most powerful and under-appreciated gift of being human is our power to choose. A starting point for this conversation is the idea offered by Teilhard de Chardin: “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

What a wake-up call this thought can be. We are so much more than the meat suit that many choose to believe is our whole reality. What is your first reaction to the idea that your body is a suit of clothes? One we change when it gets old and wears out? But to know that for sure we have to look for it. Life and our experiences change depending on the state of our consciousness, and our consciousness determines our responses in disturbing situations.

The Hindu Vedas suggest that there are seven ascending levels of consciousness. The more evolved our conscious awareness, the easier it is to see the right answer in any seemingly thorny set of circumstances. And the easier it is to see that there is a lesson we are supposed to learn, in every experience.

The faster we learn the lesson the easier it is to move on to the next one. But if we choose not to get the message — and that is always a choice — the situation surrounding the moment dissipates, goes off the stage of your life for a time and comes back re-costumed and recast to give you another crack at it. The learning never ends, because that is where we are, in an infinitely adaptable classroom.

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Danielle Voirin’s Photo of the Day for 03.30.15

Bethune, the watch dog of Ile du Guesclin.  Brittany, France.

Bethune, the watchdog of Ile du Guesclin, Brittany, France. Photo by Danielle Voirin. Click on image to display a large version.

Paris-based photographer Danielle Voirin travels the world and documents her experiences in photographs. She takes street photography and photojournalism a shade beyond even art, to the level of mysticism. She sees the world like the living Tarot spread that it is. We’ll be featuring a new photo by Dani each day of the week on the front page of Planet Waves. You may see more of her work on her website DanielleVoirin.com, or her alt website, DaniVoirin.com.

Conscious Experimentation

By Amanda Moreno

It seems like talk of releasing is coming at us from all angles these days. The astrology points to major opportunities for letting go, and it seems that so many people I come across are having the experience of feeling like they’re entering an entirely new way of being. I know that has been the case for me.

Photo by graywacke/A Landing a Day

Photo by graywacke/A Landing a Day

There are times when being aware of astrological transits and the opportunities for growth that they imply can result in feeling a lot of pressure, especially for those of us who are really trying to engage our internal processes. Hell, it’s a lot of pressure for those of us who aren’t.

Do we need to be consciously aware of what we’re letting go of? That might be ideal in that consciousness is perhaps what helps us to hone and refine the intention and vice versa. But right now it seems like the opportunities to let go, release and heal are hurtling our direction so quickly that it almost seems impossible to take conscious advantage of all of it.

I love astrology as a tool for expanding consciousness. Sometimes it just reflects a clusterfuck of paradox, though.

I keep seeing the theme of fate vs. free will popping up, especially in the astrological community. If it’s all fated, is it even possible to make the wrong decision? Isn’t failure part of the plan? Or perhaps it’s more along the lines of…fatedness in terms of spiritual and emotional trends, and free will to react to them.

I had to laugh when I read some astrologer’s commentary that those individuals who are ‘more spiritually evolved’ don’t face the same crisis and catastrophe faced by those individuals who aren’t. That kind of black-and-white thinking pretty much makes me insane — or at least it would if I spent much time on it. I don’t see evolution as acting in an inherently positive progression, for one thing. Things don’t always evolve for the better. Take, for example, a toxic environment in which species evolve into things that live underground. Is that a positive outcome? What about those we would deem “spiritually evolved,” such as the Dalai Lama. He’s certainly experienced his share of crisis.

Isn’t consciousness the critical key in evolving in a “positive” way? Addressing the issues that lead to the toxic environment with consciousness and awareness of the biological realities of evolution so that we don’t end up living underground? Or understanding that Saturn isn’t some big dude in some other realm who really wants to shove your face in your mistakes when you inevitably make them, but rather a force for constructive change and opportunity to take responsibility in order to experience reward.

Bringing consciousness to our lives can be tricky. Astrology is so helpful for consciously engaging our lives, but it sometimes amplifies experiences and reactions for good or bad. It can make things really complicated. I was reading Rudhyar’s Astrology and the Modern Psyche the other day. I have to quote:

We are dealing with the fact that the concentrated and eager study of one’s chart … is bound to force the potentialities of the individual life into more complete actualization; thus to identify the so-called ‘evil’ as well as the so-called ‘good’ in the individual personality. And, as human beings are usually more struck by and respond more crucially to the ‘bad’ than to the ‘good,’ if a person strives after self-knowledge by studying his birth chart with an intense belief in the validity of astrology, this study very often leads to an intensification of Karmic confrontations.

Ah, yes. Once again the attempt to bring consciousness proves potentially complicated. I’m so very into the idea that astrology is uniquely poised to help us transition into a more sustainable way of being because it creates a cosmological framework in which the individual can orient themselves within a tribe of other individuals. It’s so very Age of Aquarius in that way. But I sometimes think it should come with a disclaimer because, as helpful as it is, it can also be really complicated.

As modalities like astrology help us to expand our conscious awareness, they also help us to know or expand or reveal the faces of the gods and how they are reflected in our lives. In that sense, it’s incredible to ponder the philosophical (and practical) implications of the thousands of newly named objects in the past hundred years or so. They represent so many more opportunities for conscious engagement with parts of ourselves.

But it’s important also to keep things focused enough to be manageable. It’s okay not to ‘know’ everything. Which brings me back to the beginning, and the letting go. At this point, I’ve done so much releasing ritual this year that I’m more interested in resting and in celebrating and filling up all that space with as much joy and love as possible.

I looked at my chart earlier this week and saw some more transits, exact as of this writing today (Thursday) that could be paving the way for more healing and letting go. I think I just decided, however, that instead of crafting another ritual or meditation to facilitate the “letting go” of some things related to those parts of my chart, I am instead going to consciously use some free will and let go of doing more ritual for now.

In fact, I think I’m going to go home and watch something mindless. Because that’s what I want to do, having come through another season of intensity and finally returning to my more lighthearted and joyful persona. And because part of my path forward, as indicated by my chart, is taking the initiative to do what I want. Perhaps I will take a few moments to light a candle and reflect on what I’ve learned about these transits first, just to acknowledge them.

Conscious use of astrology? Free will? Fate? I know not. But I’m happy to get to experiment with it.

Weekend Tarot Reading — Sunday, Mar. 29, 2015

By Sarah Taylor

Three eight cards. That’s significant all by itself. Add to this that the two Minor Arcana cards of the Eight of Swords and the Eight of Disks are the book-ends to a Major Arcana card brings this week’s reading into greater significance and a strong balance, with Strength as the fulcrum.

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Eight of Swords, Strength, Eight of Disks from The Röhrig Tarot deck, created by Carl-W. Röhrig. Click on the image for a larger version.

Starting with the two outside cards, there is a further balance added by the presence of Swords and Disks, which represent the masculine and feminine principle respectively. What forms the foundation of the reading — the state you are moving away from that is still exercising its own influence — is the Eight of Swords. Also known as “Interference,” the Eight of Swords describes a dilemma, or an imprisonment of the mind, where in fact, there is one clear route through, and out.

The Eight is the mind when it starts getting caught up in the twists and turns of over-reflection. What comes back in the mirror is distorted, much like the two female figures towering over the man at centre: out of proportion, overwhelming, lessening the ability to see clearly.

What I find interesting are the two Suns, at the end of two meandering paths. The Röhrig has a strong theme of light sources, and here the source is dual. This is a fallacy: the shadow thrown by the seated figure is singular. No matter what he feels he is up against, it is hyper-inflated and, in actuality, there is only a single path. ‘Two much’ reflection.

On the other side of the reading — what you are moving towards — is the Eight of Disks, or “Prudence.” A very different Eight from that of the Swords, this card is associated with the care and attention required when nurturing something living and fragile into tangible existence. In this particular version of the card, there is a group of people standing under that creation, which lies in contrast to the Rider-Waite Smith version of the Eight of Pentacles (Disks in that suit), where a solitary figure applies himself to his craft, other people hinted at in the distant buildings behind him.

Here, the implication is a gathering, or a collective, with a mutual goal, working together to bring something into the material world. Whatever it is, it’s exquisite. A thing of real beauty that has a life of its own and which seems to have a protective quality for the group. Perhaps financial security; perhaps security of a different nature. A joint venture, whatever it is.

Where the Eight of Swords implies a lack of clear vision, here the vision is not only crystal clear but is also growing and maturing. And so you are moving out of a time of indecision and confusion into direction, co-operation, flourishing. Nevertheless, the work is not over: this is about dedication to craft, just like the Eight of Pentacles in the RWS version. There is a feeling of putting your head down, along with others, and making your vision happen. It asks for this, and it asks for care — both of your co-creators and the creation itself.

How to move into this state? Through Strength, the eighth card of the Major Arcana. You create your vision by embodying both the qualities of spirit and of animal instinct. Your sexual, sensual energy is sacred. Not only are you free to embrace and use it; in this case, you must. It is an integral and essential part of the process. You are bringing into balance your heartfelt connection to something bigger than you — a guiding force of wisdom that is divine in nature — and your bodily connection to Eros.

You don’t need to “tame the beast”; it is in service to you, as you are to it. You both submit and hold each other, and that animal side to you is a key part of the protective energy that enfolds the group of people under its living, breathing limbs. An aspect of you that perhaps you once feared and which caused confusion within is no longer blocking your path. You are free, once again, to strike out down that single path that is now making itself known to you. In truth, that path was always there — it was an internal shift that has opened it up to you. You have work to do, and you have the means, ability and drive to do it. Care, (com)passion, and alignment — with yourself, with others — are your ingredients.

Watch it come to life.

Astrology/Elemental correspondences: Eight of Swords (Jupiter in Gemini), Strength (Leo), Eight of Disks (Sun in Virgo)

If you want to experiment with tarot cards and don’t have any, we provide a free tarot spread generator using the Celtic Wings spread, which is based on the traditional Celtic Cross spread. This article explains how to use the spread.

The Art Of Mindful Oral Sex: A Guide For Men & Women

Note: This week’s sex-and-relationships guest-post comes courtesy of Mind Body Green, where you can read the full piece. With Venus in Taurus, the sky is emphasizing sensual pleasures — just be sure you substitute “vulva” where Gia writes “vagina,” or you might get a cramp in your tongue trying to reach in that far… — Amanda P.

By Gia Ravazzotti

Oral sex can be one of the most beautiful expressions of intimacy, desire and love for a partner or lover.

Gia Ravazzotti

Gia Ravazzotti

For men and women alike, the act of giving oral sex can actually create sensations throughout her body that will enhance and increase feelings of sexual pleasure. Some women report that they get more aroused from giving oral sex, than from any other kind of foreplay activity.

Let’s face it: it’s incredibly sexy to observe someone else experiencing sexual pleasure. But to get the most enjoyment from offering a oral sex to another person, one needs to be exceptionally mindful and present during the act.

Whether or not we admit it, if you are giving your partner oral pleasure simply as a means to an end, then you probably won’t enjoy it as much.

Getting into the mindset that you are pleasuring your partner for your stimulation as well can be a real game-changer. These simple steps might allow you to both give and receive more pleasure when you are going down on your partner.

1. Ask permission.

Firstly, always ask permission first. You may be in the mood to pleasure your partner, but check in with them first. If your partner isn’t in the mood, then don’t be disappointed. Allowing a space in a relationship for either partner to say no without consequence removes many unnecessary barriers regarding sex. Knowing that you both have the freedom to take a rain check creates much more trust and intimacy in your sexual relating than if you react negatively to their “no.”

2. Use your eyes.

Before you even start, look at your partner’s penis or vagina. I love it when clients tell me that they think their partner’s genitalia is beautiful! Have a real, proper look.

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Gia Ravazzotti (consciousintimacy.com) is a clinically qualified sex therapist and relationship counsellor with a Masters of Sexual Health based in Sydney, Australia. She loves writing and is the sexual health expert for SheKnows Australia. Gia has been consulted as a sex and relationships expert for Cosmopolitan, Cleo Magazine and OK! Magazine. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter.