Eric Francis | Sex By Sign #15: Week of Nov. 14-21, 2014

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Sex By Sign is a new weekly sex and relationships horoscope by Eric Francis. It combines his astrological gift with his ideas as a sexpositive activist and sex educator. We publish the column each Friday night. It’s available to Core Community Members, a membership level which gives you access to all written content on Planet Waves. Here is how to sign up.

Eric Francis Sex by Sign for GLYDE

When sex comes down to a power struggle, it has lost its real meaning. When sex is being used for some purpose other than pleasure, creativity and communication, it may be better to abstain, since the content of sex is what it’s all about. Of course, we tend to think these things are normal, and believe that sex must have a victim. My question is, do you feel overpowered by someone? My other question is, are you really? Your astrology answers those questions yes and no, respectively.

TAURUS Sex in Signs by Eric FrancisTAURUS (April 19-May 20)
People are starting to figure out how much fun dominance and submission play can be. Forget the recent bestseller and the forthcoming movie. This is not an activity exclusively for billionaires or people with rape fantasies. Dom/sub play is some of the most basic, garden variety fun you can have. The beauty of this form of play is how much it depends upon psychological awareness and the nuances of communication. It’s so beautiful because of the depth of intimacy involved.

GEMINI Sex by Signs Eric FrancisGEMINI (May 20-June 21)
The ongoing obsession with rape and with boundaries has another dimension, which is feeding the problem: most people don’t know how to negotiate sex. Sex is something that’s just supposed to mysteriously happen. One gets lucky, gets laid, their partner happens to be in the right mood or they can work their seductive powers. The astrology of the moment is about the art of conscious exchange. In your current environment, everyone has needs, and everyone has something to offer, which is perfect.

CANCER Sex by Signs Eric Francis CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Your sexual imagination is aligned with your intuition. You might think of your fantasies as movies you watch, or as wishful thinking. But in a sense they are also prescient. They offer glimpses of what is possible and even what is likely. Consider that something you can imagine very easily is also something you can manifest easily. In some significant way, your inner life is aligned with your outer life. Be attentive to both, watch people’s eyes and follow your sense of smell.

LEO Sex by Sign GLYDE by Eric FrancisLEO (July 22-Aug. 23)
Imagine how much better sex people would have if only they were more secure. Said another way, insecurity and lack of a sense of belonging contribute to a narrowing of the sexual possibilities. Yet your potential is opening up even as you read these words. That’s because you’ve finally taken to heart the quest for feeling safe on the planet, in your living space and in your skin. You don’t need to go the whole distance for this to have profound effects. You merely need to move in the necessary direction, which is exactly what you’re doing.

VIRGO Sex by Signs GLYDE Eric FrancisVIRGO (Aug. 23-Sep. 22)
What is the story of your sexuality? By that I mean your history, and the narrative that goes with it? You may notice that your actual history is different than your narrative. You may notice that you have two narratives — one that you share with others, and one that you share with yourself. Your astrology is describing the perfect conditions to allow something close to the actual story to be the story that you develop and allow to influence your choices.

LIBRA Sex by Signs Eric Francis GLYDELIBRA (Sept. 22-Oct. 23)
One reason that masturbation is controversial is that it does not seem to involve a relationship. But anyone who has gone deep into the territory knows that it involves your relationship to yourself. The sex you have with yourself is an expression of the love that you feel for yourself. This may not seem like good news to those who don’t like to masturbate or who consider it a substitute for ‘real sex’. Or who knows, maybe you’re really, really into it. I will say this: You have some amazing territory to explore, and the opportunity to connect with the core of your erotic being, which is territory approaching the core of your psyche.

SCORPIO Sex by Signs Eric Francis for GLYDESCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 22)
You seem self-absorbed. You seem pensive. You also seem very, very horny. Yet that does not combine well with  the darker shades of introverted. It may seem like a huge risk to try something more fun, but the real risk is letting go of one state of mind and plunging into another. If you do, what you’re likely to discover is how good it feels to vent some of that pent-up energy. The real issue is  giving you permission to take what, for you, seems like some kind of unusual chance, though only to gain the potential of some unusual reward.

SAGITTARIUS Sex by Sign Eric Francis GLYDESAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 22)
I suggest you plunge deep into the heart of who you are and what you want. You’ve probably already begun this. The first step is to set your mind free. Allow yourself any fantasy, any desire, any need, no matter how taboo or seemingly controversial. The next step is to express this emotionally in some way. By express I mean the opposite of repress. By express, I mean to feel physically, and to connect your desire with where it’s coming from in your body. You are on a journey to the center, and there are many layers on the way.

CAPRICORN Sex by Sign Eric Francis for GLYDECAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 20)
Let out some of the mojo that seems to be coursing through your blood, your bones, your heart and your soul. You have no need to hold it in — except maybe the fear of what other people might think. When it comes to sex, that is the very last thing that guides the choices of someone who seeks the freedom; indeed it is the first thing to confront, ignite and throw the ashes to the wild wind.

AQUARIUS Sex by Sign ERic Francis for GLYDEAQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 19)
The foggy ruins of time are strewn with ridiculous ideas about sex and sexuality. Within my own lifetime, to give one example, homosexual activity was considered a crime, a contagious disease and a sin against someone’s idea of God. Now we can laugh at that. There are many other relics of the past that you can see for what they are, and in the process, love yourself for who and what you are, who you love and what you want to experience — no matter how much it may seem to conflict with someone’s notion of purity. No matter who, especially you.

PISCES Sex by Sign by Eric Francis for GLYDEPISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
Ease off a bit on stressful thoughts and activities and you will have plenty of energy for sex. Yes, the world is burning, exploding and going mad many places, and you’ve been through a good bit yourself the past few weeks. True, you have plenty to do. But beneath the storm clouds and the dust is a placid lake of creative and sexual energy. You won’t know that for sure until you get close to it, which I suggest you do, as soon as you can arrange it.

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