Scorpio Monthly Horoscope for May 2019
Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 22) — None of your old relationship strategies are likely to be effective any more. All you can do is be in the moment, listen honestly and speak honestly. That means gently, without judgment. Perhaps there seems to be a contradiction here, in that if you’re judgmental, you should be honest about that. Perhaps. And there’s a way to do it that facilitates communication rather than shuts it down. For example, claim when something is your opinion, or your perception. Moreover, do your best to see several sides of every issue. Even if you baldly disagree with something, understand where someone is coming from if they think it’s true, or true for them. This does not need to be from an intellectual point of view; our beliefs are often motivated by emotional reactions. You’re at a point in your growth when all that will really work for you is a mature state of understanding, which may mean admitting that you were wrong about something, whether in the past, the present, or if it happens some time in the future. For you right now, much of what seems like a mental position is driven by something much deeper. It will be helpful, and save you considerable time and energy, if you make contact with the underlying motive driving your point of view. To succeed at this is genuinely liberating, like dropping armor or taking off clothes that fit too tight. The way to peace is not agreeing on the mental level, or even emotional. It’s coming to a place of shared values and priorities that can be applied to all situations. Either those shared values are there, or they are not. You won’t know till you get there.
Sign Description for Scorpio
(Oct. 23-Nov. 22) — Scorpio is an emotional, fiery water sign, usually represented by a creature of the desert — the scorpion. But it’s a desert creature that resembles lots of critters that live underwater, as if the ocean dried out and the scorpion stayed behind.
Note the contradictions: fiery water, ruled by a land creature. Of all the animals to have as your totem, the scorpion is by far the oddest of the lot, and we can be sure that the ancient masters of lore had a perverse sense of humor, or were keenly aware of human nature.
Scorpio is an odd hybrid, both a product — and an instigator — of evolution. In plain talk, that means growth. You tend to push the people around you. And you tend to feel pushed, both internally and by your circumstances.
Your sign is associated with sex, deep commitment and death, and that’s what you remind people of, even if it’s on a subtle level (it’s probably not). This has an influence on the people around you, all of whom think you’re ‘intense’. You probably detest that word, and likely think that you’re normal and they are missing something. Maybe you don’t have a fever; maybe their body temperature is 88 F.
Speaking of fevers, you need water, literally and figuratively; as emotional as this sign is, it can be mentally fixated (usually, on the psychology of others) and can appear to have trouble grounding in the realm of feelings. That’s a kind of illusion. You might cover your feelings, you might cover your vulnerability. But when you go deep, you really go. And when Scorpios get detached from the feeling realm, that’s when they can live up to their dangerous astrological reputation.
It’s vital that you not only think before you strike, but that you feel before you speak. Other people have feelings; you need to be reminded of this and spend time listening to the ones you care about. Express empathy as a conscious choice and invite people in with your famous capacity to keep a secret. This said, the passions of Scorpio are unparalleled, and people crave you as much as you crave them. Give them the space to desire you.
Your sign is the one that rules over the sexual organs, deservedly so; it is also the sign associated with death and transformation. You love the idea and the experience of surrender perhaps a shade more than you love control. It’s healthy for you to let go; pay attention and you will figure out that jealousy is your best teacher. Scorpio is a fixed sign, of the element water, traditionally ruled by Mars, and in modern times by the potent antiplanet Pluto. To understand yourself better, study both of these planets. These days most astrologers forget (or pretend) that Mars isn’t involved. It is — and if you’re curious about astrology, start there.