Red dahlia; blue vase; salt lamp. Photo by Amanda Painter.
Hello! I’m sorry to say I do not have a sex-and-relationships column lined up for you today. I’ve had my nose firmly pressed into Cosmophilia, proofreading away, and unfortunately the author of the one piece I thought was perfect for this weekend has not replied with permission to publish it here.
So I thought I’d turn things over to you, dear readers! What sort of lusty, juicy, surprising or creative forms of surrender are you encountering? No need to limit the category to sex — surrender to art or music, or other ‘altered states’ besides the orgasmic are welcome. Go for it! — Amanda
Well, I’m actually enjoying a bit of me time this weekend in meditation and prayer, and it seems fitting after putting some intentions into my relationship. Last night I attended a Qigong workshop with Sat Hon which got some energy moving surrounding my own creative self connection. I feel like I have access to tangible energy.
What if we expand our ideas of orgasmic to include surrender to art, music, nature, and altered states, including direct experience of divine — and Bruce!
It’s freaking cold in Maine, and hugging the woodstove just ain’t orgasmic enough, so I’ve turned to Bruce for some FIRE.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5PoIrcyd34
Holy moly, I wish I was that microphone!
My personal theme for 2015 is Say YES to the Universe. For Mars and Neptune in Pisces, that means Say YES to Pleasure. I’d been dreaming of the fun I’d have with Mars and Neptune in Pisces. Alas my lover has quarantined himself with the flu or a bad cold. While I appreciate his concern for my health, I’d rather have the FEVER…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5PoIrcyd34
Sun in the morning, Moon at night, Venus and Mercury at Sunset, and that Comet Love and Joy flying past Pleiades right now.
A working weekend, writing about pleasure. Preparing curriculum. How can I make that sexy? orgasmic? it’s my job, I’ll find a way.
About two days ago I was surrendering to writing, a day which had Pink Floyd’s “The Endless River” almost over and over again, new record for me. As I was writing, I didn’t realize how inmersed, open, vulnerable, hopeful, full of faith and belief I was at that present moment until life dealt me some sort of wild card. The phone rang, landline. A man stating he was a police officer spoke asking if anyone that lived with me was currently out of the house. I became very concerned and answered with the truth which was yes. He then asked which form of transportation they used, names and what was my relationship to them. I answered with the truth again becoming even more concerned so I hurried him to tell me what was going on, I was beginning to be in dreadful fear and thoughts of terrible things came to mind . He said that unfortunately he wasn’t bearing good news for me and continued saying that my mother had crossed the street carelessly and had produced an accident and was being attended by paramedics. I was wrapped in sudden urge to act quickly with terrible fear which I was trying to fight. He said he needed to call me on my cellphone so I gave it to him quickly as to hurry him to give me information so I could go and do something. I was so wrapped up as in caught in a spell by this phone call that I wasn’t paying attention to my uncle that was yelling to me to not give information! I was repeating him my cellphone when my uncle hurried to me and picked up the phone. He asked the guy if he was calling from inside jail or from outside in a very assertive manner, the guy responded that he was a police officer and that he was offending him. I rushed to call my mother on my cellphone and she answered very happily saying she was fine and working. I burst out in tears of grief and angst, as my uncle was confronting the guy on the phone till he hung up. It was a scam, the guy who called was conning me. I had heard this before but had totally forgotten. My uncle was very upset at me for all the info I had given, which was luckily only four names and my personal cellphone and no more. I was blasted, torn apart, for one moment I was thinking something terrible had happened to someone I love, then suddenly realizing I had been played in a way that hurt me profoundly deep in my heart and soul. I was crying and crying in shock, fear, thinking during that phone call that a dreadful moment had caught me, fortunately it was not true. I couldn’t do anything for a while, I cried and cried feeling alone and trespassed. My body was releasing some kind of agony as if I had lived the real thing, although fortunately it wasn’t true. That day I was beat up for the rest of the day and it kind of changed me. I am a different person now, although the same but I had a feeling of how deep within me my loved ones are and how important they are to me, also I don’t care for the world at large in the same way, I now will choose peace over many other things and will not fight for strangers as I used to maybe, a bit live and let die but I’m not sure yet, I am still just a bit shocked. The thing is these guys con people like that over the phone, they usually keep on going till they have someone believing, at some moment they convince the person that they should bring money to a certain place, I suppose like a hospital or something and then they intercept them and run off with the money. It’s been on the news with people who have fallen for it but I don’t have TV and was in such a positive state of mind that it caught me off guard and forgot about it. Well, now these days I just want to be happy, cherish everyone that I love much much more and just want peace and to enjoy them. Tough experience for me but I will get a great good lesson out of it. My love is stronger, bigger and more evident to me now and I have to care and enjoy each day of it.
Thanks Amanda, must admit that the current astrology is bringing up a lot of fear (not helped by current events in Europe) – and there’s nothing like fear for dampening feelings of lust/libidio! But am being tough on myself and trying to work with the fear rather than succumb to it.
My heart goes out to you, Nicolas – what a truly horrible experience. Having almost been a victim of a con outfit not so long ago, and actually falling for one a couple of years ago – I know how awful it feels. But the one you experienced was particularly nasty. Good for you for taking it as a valuable growing experience! It’s also interesting how aware you were of the total shift of a state of serenity to one of panic and fear – it’s that awareness of how our states change all the time that can eventually lead to serenity.
Carla — for me, too, this weekend is a work weekend (as was much of last weekend, what with the annual coming out *very* soon). And while my lover is not sick, as yours is, he was very supportive of my goal to get down to work yesterday — despite the rise of afternoon libido. so we were “good” and he left and i worked… and by the time i saw him again later and we had the opportunity to play, i was just too sleepy. i really, *really* do prefer daytime lovemaking! and while *any* time is the right time if you’re in the mood, i chose to be “responsible” — and i’m kind of kicking myself today, as he as commitments to keep and so do i.
yes, there is always the fun of solo play — and by no means do i belittle it. ever. i’ve had some of my most amazing orgasms by myself (although i had a totally new kind that was beautifully surprising a couple weeks ago with his participation). i just have a feeling it could be more difficult for me today to slide into that space than it would have been yesterday afternoon…
in fact, i suspect that Venus in Aquarius moving in to square my Sun exactly overnight (and still today) is the main culprit in the cooling off that occurred for me last night (the timing was laughably — if regrettably — perfect, now that i look at the astrology software). whereas in the afternoon, the Moon was sliding right by my own, conjunct the Galactic Core.
oh dear… is it possible i failed to heed a message from the cosmos telling me to get naked and fuck like a bunny? c’est la vie — there’s always another opportunity!
I just noticed I didn’t put the FEVER link in. Fire is hot enough for a repeat, but lets get the FEVER!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yQ3amVBypEk
Amanda, I appreciate your sacrifice. We are gonna love Cosmophilia!
Hey Nicolas – your comment’s fine – good for those of us who are feeling anything but lusty under the current astrology.
Though effectively – our comments are off-topic here, as this is the weekly column on sexuality!
Thanks Lizzy
Thanks,Lizzy — except, there really is not “off topic” here in this thread, since I specifically opened the floor to any and all non-sexual expressions of Mars-Neptune that people have encountered.
I think it’s 100% valid to hear from people who have had vastly different experiences of this astrology, both positive and negative (or constructive/destructive; or simply confusing). Eric has certainly focused on one particular possible theme, but human experience is so richly varied depending on so many variables!
Thank you, everyone, for being willing to share your experiences.
LIzzy, Nicolas and all,
Imagine orgasm is a grid, like in geometry class in school, with an x and y axis. It’s all sex, and some is gonna be on the plus part of the grid and some is gonna be on the minus. That is my philosophy of sex. Or the calculus of sex.
Amanda, so curious about this teaser: “(although I had a totally new kind that was beautifully surprising a couple weeks ago with his participation).”
Mars and Neptune for me are about business. I just have to run with it, all good!