Mars square Neptune allows or enables you to bend or blur the line between fantasy and reality. This must be done carefully, because it’s a special kind of power, though now is a time when the line is especially soft. You can use that, starting in the realm of the imagination (keeping it hot and risqué) and then guiding your experiences into manifestation.

Every time I read about the “reuniting of sexuality and spirituality,” I cringe a little. Both of these words seem like false concepts. Part of what seems so weird about them is that they start off being mutually exclusive, as if you cannot be spiritual if you like sex, or you cannot be sexual if you’re one of those spiritual people.

There’s an idea that fantasy and reality are two different things. One seems to exist only in the mind, and the other exists in physical ‘reality’. Yet everything that happens in your life happens in your mind, wherever else it may manifest, which is the first similarity to keep in mind.

Religion has long made sex its enemy. People who love sex might take a cue from that — it’s a direct comment on how much strength can be found in contacting one’s sexuality. You don’t need any teachings of religion to understand who you are. You only need to stay in contact with your biology, and what you recognize as your deepest desires. Both have more wisdom than all the popes and all the saints combined.

I’ve long been a fan of the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance. They are among the few people who have had the guts to stand up to abstinence-only indoctrination, which has been imposed on kids since the early 1980s. And they are among the only people you will see making any form of a public statement that sex and sexual freedom are positive things for humanity.

Last week in our relationship series on Planet Waves, we posted an article by noted erotica editor Rachel Kramer Bussell wherein she questions why anyone would want to monitor, control or be paranoid about their partner’s masturbation. It’s called I Want My Boyfriend To Fantasize About Other Women.

Getting naked is the liberating part. Start with yourself. Do ordinary things undressed. Just hang out that way. Then get a large mirror and put it where you can see yourself and keep doing those everyday things.

How much of sex is about you, and how much is about the other? I mean this in a global way. With so many romantic ideals imposed on sex, we like to think sex is all about the other person. As everyone discovers sooner or later, sometimes it is, and sometimes it’s not.