ARIES (March 20-April 19)
Now is the time to admit what you really want from sex. I recommend this exercise for everyone, but for you now it has extra value. Put what you want into words; into plain speech. Get over any guilt that some pleasure you crave is not connected to a notion of a proper relationship. The two have nothing to do with one another. Then read what you’ve written and turn yourself on.
TAURUS (April 19-May 20)
There is a silent controversy over whether sex is about oneself, or about the other. But the debate settles itself; nothing would be happening, were you not there. No experience would exist, without your presence. Then you get to take that and make it relevant to someone else, but only after you’ve made it absolutely relevant to yourself, to the point where there is no denying what is plainly so.
GEMINI (May 20-June 21)
You may discover that a number of old tendencies in relationships are not working. Though you may also know how difficult it is to alter what seem like they should be elementary patterns in how you relate to others. There’s a simple way to do this, which is to relate to the person in the moment, as who they are right now, and as who you are, right now. The past may have a lingering quality, but if you stay present it will vanish like shadows into the light.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Your fantasies and desires may be tending in the direction of power and dominance, and there’s no telling which side of the equation you’ll want to end up on, top or bottom. Personally I think this is a healthy, even essential, set of polarities to explore. It’s also a place to put your real preference right out front where everyone can see it, which in the end is submissive no matter what role you choose to take. No matter what, no matter how much help you have, you will submit to yourself.
LEO (July 22-Aug. 23)
Sex is play. That’s the thing everyone loves to forget. Well, not everyone, most people most of the time, who take a serious approach to the matter. There is nothing serious about this whole business of fucking, eating pussy, sucking cock or masturbating. Nothing at all. Over the next few days this may dawn on you like the morning light, and your sense of play will only enhance your sense of depth.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sep. 22)
Take some time and write down the stories of your favorite sexual episodes of all time. Tell the stories in detail, including everything — what you said, what you did, how you felt about it and how your partner or partners responded. Story is an essential part of raising sexual consciousness. It’s an easy way to learn your preferences, to be bold about them, and to create the language to make them real.
LIBRA (Sept. 22-Oct. 23)
If you’ve ever craved indulging the most deeply self-centered aspects of sex, now is the time. You can, for example, turn any form of sex into a fully responsive expression of self-pleasuring. You’re likely to have the full cooperation of one or more people in this experiment if you’re able to articulate the words. Then all you need to do is dive in shamelessly — or honestly encounter any shame that you feel.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 22)
If your sexual desire seems overshadowed or overpowered by something bigger than yourself, I suggest you engage that thing directly. It’s more likely to be a feeling; it could be the feeling of wishing you could get yourself stoked up. Here is a clue. That desire contains the spark of erotic passion, small though it may be. There are some unusually kinky desires mixed up in this whole equation, subtle though they may seem at first.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 22)
Dark fantasies are meaningful and can be deeply pleasurable. The sex that most people want, by which I mean really, really want on the level of need, usually has a touch of the taboo to it, the dangerous, the transgressive. If your mind is going there, you can stay with it. If your body wants to go there, you have the ability and very likely the necessary friends or allies to make that happen too.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 20)
It is arguable that all sex is about self-gratification and that in our era, nearly all sex has a narcissistic quality to it. Sometimes that line between it is and it isn’t is impossible to see. I propose that the metric is, to what extent are you curious about others — especially those who are curious about you? If you’re not interested, how does it feel to be self-absorbed? If you are curious about those other people, I think you will find it easy to get their attention.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 19)
I am one of those people who believe that there is such a thing as friends who are lovers. There are people in our lives who morph back and forth between friends and lovers, and friends with whom we have sex when appropriate. I also know that even the seemingly casual hookup can be profoundly meaningful, if you pay attention to the meaning and offer yourself body and soul (usually sober). What you just read is an approximate translation of your current chart.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
Centaur sex comes to mind. This is sex where there are no rules except that everyone says yes. After that, it’s au naturel, as it happens. Just pay attention and make sure everyone is having a good time. There is infinite potential, and the opportunity to let go of your persona, crack your shell and come all the way out into the room. The best sex happens when you feel free. Right now the way is open.